Help Someone You Love

When people are depressed, they're not the only ones who suffer. Typically, many of those around a depressed person—friends, family, and loved ones—also struggle with the effects of his or her condition.

Watching someone you love fight depression can be frustrating and frightening. Remember, you can't take responsibility for someone else, and the decision to get help is up to the person with depression. But, there are things you can do.

For many people with depression, a friend or loved one who cares can be their most important resource.

What can I do?

Learn about depression—its causes, symptoms, and treatments. Knowing about the condition will help you better understand what a depressed person is going through.
Do what you can to make sure that a person with depression gets medical care. Encourage your friend or loved one to stick with his or her therapy or medication. Offer to go with him or her to appointments as support.
Be supportive and patient. Listen to what the depressed person has to say.
Without being pushy, encourage your friend or loved one to do the things that he or she used to enjoy. See friends. Go to the movies. Take a walk.

Emergencies

If someone you know is thinking about suicide, don't ignore it. Do whatever you can to get help for that person. Get in touch with his or her doctor or therapist.

Avoiding burnout

Helping a person with depression can be exhausting and overwhelming. Here are some things to keep in mind that can help both of you:

Try to get other people involved in helping a person who's depressed, since doing it on your own can be difficult.
People with depression often resist attempts to be helped. It's okay to feel angry and frustrated, but don't confuse the person you love with the illness.
Depression isn't anyone's fault. It isn't possible to “snap out of” depression.
No matter how overwhelmed you feel, take time for yourself.

Online caregiver support:

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Caregiver Support Kit
http://www.nwrcwa.org/caregiverkit3.shtml

Depression Caregiver Support
http://members.tripod.com/garyicare/

Depression Resources at WebMD
http://DepressionResources.webmd.com

Also of Interest

Do you know the common symptoms of depression? Try this questionnaire.

See how depression affects the brain.